In every society, from rural villages to metropolitan cities, one role remains timeless yet too often overlooked: the role of a father. As global discourse shifts to embrace inclusive parenting and child development, the need to reassert the dignity and depth of fatherhood has never been more critical. This is especially true in Muslim culture, where the spiritual, emotional, and social weight of fatherhood is deeply rooted in Islamic teachings but is sometimes diluted by modern distractions and cultural misinterpretations.
The Universal Declaration of Fatherhood: A Modern Reaffirmation
The Universal Declaration of Fatherhood reminds us that fathers are not merely providers; they are guides, nurturers, protectors, and moral beacons. Across all its articles, the declaration redefines fatherhood as both a privilege and a responsibility, affirming that fathers are essential to the emotional and intellectual stability of children and the health of families and societies.
Fatherhood in the Qur’an and Sunnah
Islamic tradition offers a profound view of fatherhood — not as a role of dominance but of compassion, accountability, and nurturing leadership. Allah (SWT) gives countless examples in the Qur’an of devoted, patient, and wise fathers. Among the most striking is the story of Prophet Yaqub (Jacob), who comforted his son Yusuf (Joseph) during distress:
“He said, ‘O my son, do not relate your vision to your brothers or they will contrive against you a plan. Indeed, Satan is to man a manifest enemy.’” — Qur’an, Surah Yusuf (12:5)
This verse reflects a father’s duty to guide, protect, and counsel with wisdom and foresight.
Prophet Ibrahim’s (Abraham’s) interaction with his son Ismail is another powerful model:
“He said, ‘O my son, indeed I have seen in a dream that I must sacrifice you. So see what you think.’” — Qur’an, Surah As-Saffat (37:102)
Here, Ibrahim (AS) consults his son with respect and love, reflecting the deep trust and communication that must characterize fatherhood.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), the most beloved father figure in Islam, said:
“The best of you are those who are best to their families.” — Hadith (Tirmidhi)
He was known to play with his children and grandchildren, carry them on his shoulders, and show public affection at a time when it was culturally rare. His example set a new paradigm for masculinity: one that blended strength with tenderness.
Societal Neglect and the Need for Restoration
In today’s world, economic pressure, social marginalization, and cultural stigmas often separate fathers from their children—either physically or emotionally. In some societies, traditional patriarchal norms emphasize material provision over emotional presence. In others, systemic barriers—especially among marginalized communities—strip fathers of the time, dignity, or resources to fully engage with their families.
This detachment has consequences: youth delinquency, identity crises, broken homes, and community decline. Studies across cultures have confirmed what Islamic teachings have long upheld: father engagement reduces poverty, improves educational outcomes, and promotes mental health.
As Article 3 of the Universal Declaration of Fatherhood states:
“Fathers play a crucial role in building healthy communities by modeling integrity, responsibility, empathy, and resilience.”
Restoring Fatherhood in Muslim Communities
The revitalization of fatherhood must begin within homes, mosques, community centers, and policy tables. We must:
- Redefine masculinity beyond authority and income to include caregiving, patience, and emotional intelligence.
- Support fathers through counseling, parenting workshops, and community conversations — especially for immigrant fathers adjusting to new cultural norms.
- Educate young men about the sacredness of parenting and family responsibility before marriage.
- Push for policies that allow fathers to take parental leave, access mental health support, and balance work-life responsibilities.
As the Prophet (PBUH) said:
“Every one of you is a shepherd, and every one of you is responsible for his flock.” — Hadith (Bukhari and Muslim)
The Legacy Fathers Leave
A father’s legacy is not in what he builds with his hands, but what he plants in the hearts of his children. Whether he is a biological parent, stepfather, guardian, or mentor, every man who assumes the role of a father is a moral architect shaping the next generation.
As Article 7 of the Declaration puts it:
“Fathers have a responsibility to model ethical behavior, foster education, instill cultural values, and leave a positive legacy for future generations.”
Final Reflections
Let us restore the sanctity of fatherhood in every home, every culture, and every mosque. Let fathers be honored, supported, and challenged to rise to their highest potential — as moral leaders, mentors, and nurturers. In doing so, we not only revive the soul of the family but also lay the foundation for a just, compassionate, and resilient society.
Notable Quotes
- Umar Ibn Al-Khattab (RA): “Play with them for the first seven years; discipline them for the next seven years; and befriend them for the next seven years.”
- Barack Obama: “What makes you a man is not the ability to make a child, it’s the courage to raise one.”
- Tariq Ramadan: “The family is the first place where values are transmitted, not only through speech but by the example of adults.”
By Abdirahman Omar
AFRICAN CENTER FOR EXCELLENCE 